Introducing sex toys into your partnered experiences can unlock new dimensions of pleasure for both you and your partner.
Sex toys offer sensations that our bodies simply cannot replicate, such as pulsing and vibrating. These unique stimulations can lead to more consistent, frequent, and even more intense and complex orgasms. The diverse range of sensations available with sex toys can keep your intimate life exciting and varied, which is essential for maintaining desire in long-term relationships.
At Lady and All, we believe that incorporating toys into your sexual repertoire can deepen your connection and amplify your pleasure, making every intimate moment more fulfilling.
How to Have the Sex Toy Conversations We Want to Have – and Enjoy Better Sex
Discussing the topic of sex toys with your partner doesn’t have to be a daunting task. With the right approach, you can open up a new world of pleasure and intimacy.
Consider the Timing
One common mistake people make is introducing sex toys during the heat of the moment. Unless you know your partner is comfortable with surprises, this approach can lead to anxiety and pressure, potentially stirring up insecurities or conflict. Instead, set aside time outside of sexual activity to discuss incorporating toys into your play.
It’s easy to do in a new relationship as you’re likely already discussing your sexual preferences. However, early conversations about sexual preferences require vulnerability, and not everyone feels comfortable with that right away. It’s perfectly fine to wait until months or even years into a relationship to bring up the topic. If you’ve never had a conversation about your sexual wants and needs, mentioning toys could be a good way to open up broader intimate dialogue.
How to Start the Conversation
If you’re unsure how to initiate the conversation, consider framing it as something you encountered in an article, online discussion, or during a chat with a friend. This can make the topic feel less personal and more like a shared exploration.
Avoid Criticism and Apologies
No matter when or how you start the conversation, avoid linking your interest in toys to any critique or frustration with your current sex life. This can trigger insecurities in your partner. Likewise, don’t apologise for your desires, as this can create anxiety and stress. Instead, approach the conversation from a place of exploration. Present sex toys as one of many exciting things you can try together to enhance your shared experiences.
Most of us want our partners to experience pleasure during sex and are willing to explore higher forms of pleasure together.
Embrace Mutual Exploration
If your partner is open to exploring toys, avoid dictating the terms of this exploration. Continue discussing the sensations you both enjoy or are curious about, and how toys could enhance your current sex life. Think beyond genital stimulation and consider other forms of pleasure. Discuss your ideas, understand where they overlap or differ, and build from there.
Practical Steps for Introducing Toys
If either you or your partner already has toys that you use alone, consider bringing them into shared play. The partner with the toy can demonstrate how they use it on themselves, then guide the other verbally or physically to join in. Alternatively, you might explore new toys together to find ones that fit your dynamic as a duo. At Lady and All we suggest turning toy research and shopping into a couple’s activity, building intimacy and mutual excitement.
We have put below a couple of toys that are great for couples play below:
Padded Leather Wrist Cuffs
Exploring light BDSM can open up a new world of pleasure and intimacy in your relationship, and our Padded Leather Wrist Cuffs are the perfect starting point. Designed for comfort and control, these cuffs feature a soft leather lining and adjustable straps for a secure fit, ensuring maximum comfort even during extended use. The luxurious padding and buckle provides a safe and reliable way to introduce light restraint play, offering a taste of submission and control without overwhelming either partner.
Using our Padded Leather Wrist Cuffs can help build trust and improve communication between partners, enhancing your connection. The elegant design adds sophistication to your play, making these cuffs a stylish addition to your collection. Whether you’re tying your partner to the bedposts or experimenting with different positions, these cuffs offer a comfortable, safe, and exciting way to start exploring light BDSM. Order your pair today and discover the thrilling possibilities that await.
Doxy Original Massager
Exploring sex toys as a couple can open up new avenues of pleasure and deepen your connection, and the Doxy Original Massager is the perfect tool to enhance your intimate moments together. Known for its powerful vibrations and versatile design, the Doxy Original Massager offers couples an exciting way to explore and intensify their sexual experiences.
The Doxy Original Massager is designed to deliver deep, rumbly vibrations that can be easily adjusted to suit both partners’ preferences. Its ergonomic design and long handle make it easy to use during partnered play, allowing you to seamlessly incorporate it into your foreplay or main event. Whether you’re using it for clitoral stimulation, targeting erogenous zones, or enjoying a relaxing massage, the Doxy Massager adds a new dimension of pleasure and excitement to your relationship.
Using the Doxy Original Massager in Purple encourages communication and experimentation, helping couples to discover what feels best and enhancing their overall intimacy. By exploring new sensations together, you can build trust, improve your sexual connection, and create unforgettable experiences. The Doxy Original Massager is more than just a sex toy; it’s a gateway to deeper intimacy and shared pleasure.
