Did you know that a whopping 80% of women fake orgasms during sex.

Faking orgasms can create a cycle that’s hard to break.

You might have done it early in the relationship, and now your partner expects you to climax every time. They rely on that one move you convinced them you love. This occasional fakery can trap you, forcing you to continue pretending for fear your partner will feel they’ve failed.

This cycle isn’t beneficial for anyone. Constantly faking it means accepting that genuine orgasms might not happen. You might settle for mediocre sex or use your acting skills to get it over with. This sets the stage for a future of unsatisfying sex, as your partner has no reason to improve or try new things if they think what they’re doing is working.

It’s also unfair to your partner, who might be completely unaware that you’re not having a good time. Faking orgasms perpetuates the idea that sex is only successful if it ends in climax. The reality is that sex can be incredibly enjoyable without the pressure of reaching orgasm. Viewing climax as the only sign of success can prevent you from relaxing and enjoying other aspects of intimacy.

So, Why Should YOU Stop Faking Orgasms?

Breaking the cycle isn’t as simple as deciding to stop acting. Having an open and honest conversation about faking orgasms can strengthen your relationship and enhance your sexual experiences. The best approach is rooted in trust, honesty, and communication. Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you navigate this delicate discussion:

• Reassure Your Partner: Start by letting your partner know that you enjoy having sex with them (if this is true). This sets a positive tone and reassures them of your appreciation.
• Admit to Faking It: Gently inform them that you have been faking orgasms. It’s important to be honest without making them feel blamed or inadequate.
• Explain Why: Provide a clear explanation for why you felt the need to fake it. This might require some self-reflection to understand your own reasons.
• Offer a Solution or Suggestion: Suggest ways to improve your sexual experience. This could involve trying new techniques, introducing sex toys, or spending more time on foreplay.
• Reassure Them Again: Reaffirm that you enjoy having sex with them and believe that with some adjustments, it can become even more enjoyable for both of you.

Avoid blaming or shaming language. Instead, explain your reasons and discuss any changes you’d like to make to your sex life.

Self-Reflection

Before you have this conversation, take some time to reflect on why you’ve been faking orgasms. Understanding the root cause can help you communicate more effectively and find practical solutions. Consider the following questions:

• Are you self-conscious about taking too long to climax?
• Do you know what brings you pleasure?
• Could the addition of a clitoral vibrator enhance your experience?
• Did you feel pressure to fake it without realising you didn’t have to?

The Benefits of Orgasms: Quick Insights

• Mood Boost: Releases dopamine, endorphins, oxytocin, prolactin, and serotonin, enhancing happiness and reducing stress.
• Body Connection: Helps you understand your sexual health and recognize any abnormalities.
• Pleasure Discovery: Teaches you what arouses you, allowing for better solo and partnered experiences.
• Relationship Strength: Releases bonding hormones like oxytocin and prolactin, enhancing partner connections.
• Improved Sleep: The relaxing hormones released can help you fall asleep more easily.
• Pelvic Floor Health: Strengthens pelvic muscles, increases blood flow, and enhances vaginal lubrication.
• Pain Relief: Natural pain relievers like oxytocin and endorphins can alleviate period cramps for some people.

Addressing Concerns About Faking Orgasms

If you suspect your partner might be faking their orgasms, it’s crucial to approach the topic with sensitivity and a focus on enhancing future pleasure, rather than dwelling on past experiences.

Open the Conversation

Avoid direct accusations or questions about whether they’ve been faking it. Instead, frame the discussion around your desire to increase their pleasure and deepen your connection.

Here are some conversation starters:

• “I’m determined to discover how to make you feel good. Do you have any particular favourite things to do in bed that you would like to do more of?”
• “I think playing with a toy together would be quite hot. Would you like to bring any toys you use for masturbation into the bedroom?”
• I came upon an article discussing the advantages of having orgasms. Is there a specific method or touch that enables you to reach that point?”

Be Enthusiastic and Supportive

When approaching this topic, be enthusiastic and supportive. Show genuine interest in your partner’s pleasure and be open to exploring new techniques and tools together. This positive attitude can help create a safe space for honest communication and mutual exploration.

Lady and All’s Top Picks for Enhancing Your Bedroom Experience

The Power of The Doxy Original Massager

Known as the “most powerful wand” on the market, the Doxy Original Massager is a game-changer in the world of vibrating sex toys. Unlike battery-operated toys, this wand plugs directly into the wall, delivering continuous, intense vibrations to stimulate not just your clitoris, but your entire vulva.

Why It’s a Game-Changer

The powerful vibrations of the Doxy Original Massager can awaken and stimulate the entire vulva area, leading to heightened pleasure and more intense orgasms. The consistent vibrations ensure that the sensations are deep and satisfying, making it a favourite among those seeking powerful stimulation.

For the best experience, be sure to use plenty of lube. A favourite amongst our customers we suggest using the So Divine Water Based Lubricant. Lubrication enhances the sensation and makes the experience more comfortable and pleasurable. Whether you’re using it solo or with a partner, the Doxy Original Massager promises to deliver an unparalleled level of satisfaction.

Enhance Your Intimacy with the So Divine Glorious Pink Dildo 

If you’re looking to add extra excitement to your sex life, introducing the So Divine Glorious Dildo in Pink with your partner is a fantastic way to do it. This high-quality dildo is designed to elevate pleasure and enhance both solo and partnered experiences. Its realistic shape and size make it perfect for exploring new sensations and positions together, offering a more dynamic and satisfying sexual encounter.

Crafted from premium, body-safe silicone, the So Divine Glorious Dildo ensures a comfortable and safe experience every time. The soft yet firm texture mimics the feel of real skin, adding an extra layer of realism to your play. Whether you’re using it for vaginal or anal stimulation, this versatile dildo can adapt to your desires, bringing variety and novelty to your intimate moments.

Integrating the So Divine Glorious Dildo into your sexual repertoire can also strengthen your relationship by deepening your connection and opening up new realms of pleasure. Sharing the experience of using this toy can foster better communication about your sexual preferences and enhance mutual satisfaction. By exploring together, you and your partner can discover what truly excites you both, leading to more fulfilling and adventurous sex.

Enhance your intimate moments and explore new dimensions of pleasure with the So Divine Glorious Dildo. Whether you’re a seasoned toy user or new to incorporating toys into your sex life, this dildo is sure to bring an extra spark to your bedroom activities.

Discover Peach-Perfect Pleasure with the Peachy Mini Wand Massager 

Take advantage of the Peachy Mini Wand Massager and get peach-perfect pleasure. Your personal times will be elevated by the deep vibrations produced by this small, strong vibrator. It is intended to assist you in reaching an incredible climax, customised to your individual wants, and comes with ten distinct pleasure settings.

The Peachy Mini Wand Massager is a body-safe silicone that is peach-soft and provides powerful stimulation without being harsh on the skin. Because of its waterproof construction, you can experiment with pleasure in the shower or bathtub, broadening the scope of your couples or individual play. This little but powerful vibrator will quickly become your newest addiction because it consistently provides peach-perfect delight.