We’re guessing you searched for “bondage for beginners” and landed on our blog. A warm welcome from all of us at Lady and All. We are a safe space dedicated to sexual wellness and sex toys, including guidance for first-time beginners eager to explore bondage. Curious about tying up and teasing your partner? You’re in good company.

Bondage is not a new phenomena; it has been a feature of sensual books and art for decades. The fascination of bondage has survived throughout history, from Rembrandt’s “Andromeda Chained to the Rocks” in 1630 to the release of “Fifty Shades of Grey” in 2013, which took it into the mainstream.

According to one YouGov poll they found that 1 in 4 under 40s want to try BDSM. Bondage can be an exciting way to discover new levels of intimacy, whether you’re pulling sections of your body together, spreading your limbs, or tying yourself to an object.  Bondage in the bedroom is an excellent way to expand your sexual horizons and spice up your relationship. 

This guide is packed with easy bondage ideas to help you ease into this exciting practice while remaining safe and comfortable. Take the time to figure out what works best for you and your partner, and communicate openly to ensure a positive experience for both.

If you’re ready to dive into the world of BDSM and bondage, keep reading for some serious kink inspiration.

Best Sex Toys for Bondage Newbies

Love is Blind

Blindfolds are a straightforward yet powerful bondage accessory, ideal for those new to this type of play. By limiting your vision with a blindfold or mask, your other senses become more acute, making every touch feel more intense and pleasurable.

Removing eye contact can help build confidence for both partners, as it encourages you to focus more on physical sensations and less on visual cues. This shift enhances your ability to interpret and respond to each other’s body language. We suggest our customer favourite the Kanuka Blindfolds which you can shop here. 

For light bondage play with blindfolds, consider using a feather tickler to gently tease your partner’s body or stimulate their erogenous zones before progressing to more intimate activities.

It’s Cuffing Season

Handcuffs are a wonderful starting point for bondage play, offering a sense of restraint and power dynamics that can enhance the experience. Whether you’re fantasising about being a police officer or a bad criminal, or simply enjoying the sensation of being confined, handcuffs provide a fascinating way to feel powerless while still moving.

For beginners, try basic bondage positions such as cuffing your partner to the bed. Securing their hands to the bedposts elongates their body, giving you the perfect opportunity to teasingly explore every inch of their skin.

Another exciting idea is to have your partner sit on a chair with their hands cuffed behind their back. This position allows you to take control and do as you please, while they are unable to touch you….perfect for a naughty lap dance or other teasing activities.

Try our padded leather wrist cuffs in pink which you can shop here. 

Time To Get Physical

If you’re interested in light pain play, spankers, ticklers, and floggers are great starting points. Teasing your partner with a slight stroke of a feather tickler or a light graze of a flogger can increase their sensory perception and make them crazy with excitement.

Combining impact play devices with shackles or blindfolds creates an even more intense experience. This not only improves the sensory experience but also heightens the expectation. Using our fetish play vegan paddle with our kanuka blindfolds is an exciting experience.

Other pain play options include using a spanking paddle or whip to give your spouse a harsh but gratifying sting to the skin. However, always check that your partner is okay with more intense impact play before moving forward. Clear communication and permission are essential for a safe and happy experience.

Exploring Temperature Play in BDSM

Light hot and cold impact play can add an intriguing twist to your BDSM activities. Begin by applying basic instruments such as ice cubes or warm honey to the skin to introduce contrasting temperatures. Once you’ve gained confidence, you can progress to employing bondage candles or hot sex toys for a more intense experience. Set the mood for an unforgettable sensual massage with the luxurious, soy-based High on Love® Sensual Massage Candle. Blended with nourishing hemp seed and coconut oil, this candle not only delights the senses but also pampers your skin.

The warm oils in the candle melts have a calming effect on your skin, enabling relaxation, loving exploration, and romance. The captivating aroma of rosebud heightens the atmosphere, seducing your senses which aids well to your BDSM experience.

Safety must be prioritised in all bondage procedures. To avoid burning the skin, use speciality bondage candles with a low melting point. Clear communication and consent are required to ensure a safe and happy encounter for you and your partner.